Postpartum Depression & Anxiety
If you ever wonder why you don’t feel as happy as you think you should after your baby is born, you are not alone. Most new moms experience the baby blues in the first two weeks, however, 15-20% of women experience more significant anxiety and depression in the postpartum period. Being a new mom is hard! I am here to tell you there is hope and with help you will feel better.
Therapy for Postpartum Depression and Anxiety Helps With:
- Anxiety/Uncontrollable Worry
- Obsessions/Compulsions Around Baby
- Anger & Irritability
- Sadness that won’t go away
- Not enjoying things you used to enjoy
- Feeling Stressed Out
- Birth Trauma/Difficult Birth Experience
You may experience one or many symptoms of depression and/or anxiety and there is hope! Postpartum Mood and Adjustment Issues will improve with therapy and this will not last forever. I promise! Many women have never struggled with depression and/or anxiety before having a baby and feel confused about why they feel so out of control, sad and anxious.
If you answer yes to one or many of these questions, then you may be struggling with Postpartum Depression and/or Anxiety.
- Are you feeling more sad or depressed than normal?
- Do you feel more irritable or angry with those around you?
- Are you having difficulty bonding with your baby?
- Do you feel anxious or panicky?
- Are you having problems with eating or sleeping?
- Are you lonely and feeling isolated?
- Are you having upsetting thoughts that you can’t get out of your mind?
- Are you having upsetting or unwanted images from your birth experience?
- Did you have a baby during COVID19 and feel you missed out on what you had hoped for?
- Do you feel as if you are “out of control” or “going crazy”?
- Do you feel like you never should have become a mother?
- Are you worried that you might hurt your baby or yourself?
If you had a difficult or traumatic birth, therapy is often needed to process this difficult experience. Your doctor may not have thought your birth was difficult or traumatic, but if you were scared, terrified or stressed during your birth then you should talk about it. Even if you feel you should be happy that your baby is ok, you still may be sad, angry and disappointed. Wishing your experience was different is part of the grief process and it is ok to grieve. Many moms feel alone in these feelings and feel dismissed when they express how hard it was. You may have had your baby taken to the NICU right away and you still grieve the post birth golden hour you dreamed of. Having a baby in the NICU is very scary and you have the right to feel sad and angry about it. If you are having frightening or unwanted thoughts about your birth experience, it means that you are still struggling to make sense of it. I offer EMDR in addition to talk therapy, as a way to process your birth experience. (See EMDR page for more information)
In addition, the transition from being a woman who is independent, to having a baby that demands so much, can be overwhelming. When I was a new mom, I struggled with isolation and feeling alone. Most of my friends were working and did not have an infant. I often felt bored and lonely, yet I was busy with constant feedings and diaper changes. It was a bigger adjustment than I expected and I had to make an effort to connect with other new moms. Recovery from birth is often more physically and emotionally demanding than anticipated. You do not have to do this alone.
Having a place to talk about these feelings and express possible feelings of regret, or disappointment is important. You are not a bad mom for having thoughts of wanting to run away and just have some time for yourself again. You can still love your baby and have these thoughts. There is absolutely no shaming or judgment from me on your thoughts, feelings and decisions as a mom.
You may struggle with the decision to breast feed or bottle feed. It is ok to choose what is best for you. You may be having your mom or other family members trying to give you advice but it is not helpful. Or worse, it may be harmful to your confidence as a new mom. You don’t have to have all the answers. You have to make the best decisions you can for you, your baby and family.
Having a second or third (or more) child may also feel overwhelming and you probably did not expect to struggle with adjustment, depression or anxiety. You may wonder what is wrong when you thought you had prepared so well. The adjustment to each new baby is real and hard!
I will help you to find your new “normal” where you feel content and look forward to this journey. I am passionate about helping moms be honest about their feelings and not pretend that everything is ok. Contact me for a free phone consultation to see if I would be a good fit for you.
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